Wednesday, October 1, 2014

Spotting a Pinoy - "You Must Be A Filipino?"

For some, all Asians look the same.  However, there are certain traits which are distinctly Pinoy.


Shopping

A department store sales personnel in Frankfurt, Germany was not able to restrain herself from asking "You must be a Filipino?" back in 1988.   I responded in the affirmative and she justified her observation by saying that I was buying several things and referring to my written cheat list (Kodigo). 

She added that I must be flying back to the Philippines and was buying presents (Pasalubong) for my loved ones.  When I spoke, her initial impression was that I came from the US until I started reading from my list and was purchasing the gift items.  It is very typical for Pinoys to buy presents in batches and at the last minute or just beating the deadline. 

Aside from batch purchases,  Pinoys love sales promotions (promos) and discounts.  They would not pass by a "Buy Something, Take  Something" promo or a "Buy Something, Get A Free Gift" offer.  Pinoys also love the "rewards points"  scheme where you earn points which can be redeemed later for a free item.

If possible, a Pinoy will ask for an item's "last selling price".  Elder Pinoys would even query sales personnel from established department stores whether the item's displayed selling price is the final (lowest) selling price or not.  An unsure response would prompt them to haggle for the lowest selling price.


Communication

Pinoys have complex communication skills.   What you see/hear is NOT what you always get.  Because Pinoys are 'sooooo'  polite,  they would not immediately inform you that they did not understand what you have just said.   It is not unusual for a Pinoy to ask the person beside him "what did the speaker say?"  (Ano daw yun?)  Some would even just smile and make a blank stare.  

This happens often when the foreigner speaks in an unfamiliar accent.  Pinoys are used to American accent.  Pinoys are more comfortable to reply in slang than to give a formal answer.  Filipinos speak English phrases or quotes often but for many, full conversation in English is a mental twister ("Duduguin ka.").

It is also not strange for a Filipino to make a facial expression or do a body movement when you talk to them.  Body movements include scratching of the head when there is difficulty in understanding the speaker or when the speaker requests something difficult for them to give.  Even for such request, a Pinoy may not give an outright no or rejection.

More common in Pinays (Filipino Women) is the use of their eyes and eyebrow to express doubt - stink eye or raised eyebrow ('Itaas ang kilay').  Another verbal reaction when in doubt is "Nek nek mo" or putting the finger in the neck.  

In the late 1970s,  when a Pinoy is left with no alternative, he/she replies "Magapatuka na lang ako sa ahas" (I'll just have myself be bitten by a snake).  So, exaggerated replies are not strange to be heard from a Pinoy.

Tone of the voice matters too.   The loudness, pitch, speed and manner of the reply could indicate the Pinoy's proximity or relation to the addressee.   Pinoys are a bit expressive in their verbal communication.  A simple query "What is it?"  can be delivered in an endearing ('Malambing") or irritated manner depending whether they are pleased with the addressee or not.  

One word can be a reply or a question.  An example is an elevator encounter - asking if the lift is going down  (vernacular question - "Bababa?")  or just a reply by the elevator operator ("Bababa.").

Aside from manner and intent,  the tone reflects the Pinoy's emotional state.  If you are sensitive enough, you can sense happiness or loneliness when talking to Pinoys.  You can feel the Pinoy's emotion when he/she talks.  The "Insulares Pinoys" (my term for Pinoys born and raised in the Philippine Islands) were not brought up to be cold, distant and objective.  Pinoys in the islands were raised to be warm, friendly, accommodating and polite.  Thus, a Pinoy sounds different or unusual when he is under the weather.   


Gestures  and Intimacy

Pinoys are not really touchy.  They are also not distant.  They do not mind a person being close to them provided the person does not have halitosis (bad breath) and/or unpleasant body odor (Baktol).  

When you travel in the Philippines, it is not unusual to see two females hold hands.  It is also not unusual to have one male place his arm on the shoulder of another male.  These show friendship or familiarity between individuals of same sex.    The reverse of these - two men holding hands or a woman placing her arm over the shoulder of another woman connote a different meaning.

Pinoys are still conservative as far as public display of affection (PDA) is concerned.   You would seldom witness a passionate kiss in public.  During the 1960s and 1970s,  PDAs are only done in a dark movie house with very few viewers or isolated areas in parks during twilight.


Travel

In the Philippines, the Departure area is congested.  In the past, it is not strange to see an outbound Pinoy escorted by the whole village and a jeep full of well wishers.  This shows the close-knit family or community where the traveler belongs to. 

In flight terminals abroad,  Pinoys are easy to spot especially during December.  Pinoys spending holidays in the Philippines are likely to have several hand carry and shopping bags.  Pinoys would prefer to be generous than practical during the holidays,  The Filipinos' generosity is caused by their desire to be like children at heart and to have a positive outlook in life.


Food

Noodles mark the birth celebration of Pinoys.  Asian noodles (Pancit Bihon) dish represents long life and is a "must have" dish during birthday occasion.  For kids, it is already a tradition to serve Spaghetti - Filipino Style.   In Italy, spaghetti can just be sauteed tomatoes over noodles.    For the Pinoy, it MUST be more.  Spaghetti Pinoy style is sweet and a bit sour.  It is tomato sauce based with ground pork and pieces of tender juicy "hotdogs".     These cut sausages must also be RED in color.

Nowadays,  it is not strange to see Pinoys include the cheese in the sauce.  For some, they even add chicken liver in the spaghetti sauce.

Pinoy food has gained notoriety because of "Balut".  The boiled duck egg is just a delicacy which is not even a part of the regular dishes served during Pinoy celebrations.  If you are afraid of the duck's anatomy, I suggest you ask for "Penoy".  I am not aware of an official study when Pinoys eat Balut.  From my observation, Pinoys eat the delicacy once in awhile during late afternoon till the wee hours of the morning.

For breakfast, Pinoys have garlic fried rice "Sinangag" with fried salted dried fish (tuyo, daing or damggit), fried meat (beef tapa, pork tocino or longganisa) and/or fried egg.  Pinoys also eat bread during breakfast.  Eating Pandesal with fried egg or sausages is common.  If fried egg/meat is not available,  Pinoys just dip the Pandesal in a hot cup of coffee (must try is Barako brew).

To cut short this discussion on food,  the flagship of Pinoy dishes and which I personally witness as the Centerfold er, Centerpiece of Filipino culinary and gastronomical event is the LECHON or roasted pig.  Wherever you are, if you see any of the following on the buffet table - Adobo, Afritada, Pancit Bihon, Embutido, Hilabos na Hipon, Kare-kare with bagoong, Menudo, Mechado, Caldereta, Dinuguan, Bicol Express, Pancit Bihon, BBQ, Spaghetti, Morcon, steamed rice  - and LECHON in the middle of the table, then the host must be a Filipino!






Saturday, September 27, 2014

Beating Social Media Insecurities

Some people avoid participation in social media due to various reasons.  If you are prevented by your looks and status, hope this list will make you more confident to participate in the digital world.


Looks?


1.  Not Beautiful enough, Not Sexy enough?   Use a profile picture of your pet, your house, etc.  You can even take a snapshot of the back of your head.  Worse, you can use the photo of your favorite actor or actress.   We can use a lot of things and strategies to hide our imperfections.   My suggestion is to highlight our assets.

Kung maganda ang buhok mo at di naman kanais-nais ang mukha mo,  kunan mo nang litrato ang buhok mo (top, side o back view).   Kung may boobs ka at maganda ang abs mo,  gamitin mo ito sa profile photo mo. (HINDI DAPAT bastos ang pagkakuha!  Paano?  Well, that's your problem if you insist on being physical.)  Siyempre bawal ang nudity.

Wala kang physical asset? No problem.  Ayusin mo ang kuwarto mo at kunan ito.  May profile pic ka na.

Profile pics can be based on your causes and emotion.  Galit ka sa mga tsismoso at tsismosa, kunan mo nang litrato ang alulod ng bahay ninyo.  Galit ka sa mga kriminal?   Kunan mo nang litrato ang isang arinola o inodoro sa kubeta ninyo.

In social media, physical attributes should not hinder you to participate.  Lahat ng tao ay may kagandahan sa sarili niya.  As the saying goes, BEAUTY is in the EYES of the BEHOLDER.


Status?


2.  Wala kang dats o dinero?  Punta ka sa Luneta o Park at kunan mo nang litrato.
     Wala kang kamera?  Di magsulat ka ng status mo.  Sabihin mo sa caption, "Nasa Luneta ako.
     enjoying the sights!"

 Di ka makakain sa loob ng restaurant,  magprito ka ng itlog at kunan mo ito with matching pandesal.  Tapos lagyan mo ng caption,  Classic Breakfast!

Social Media is not only for the hip and financially able.  We can use it to express ourselves and our opinions, to show our creativity and uniqueness,  and ,more importantly, to connect with others.


Network?


3.  Shy ka dahil konti lang ang kakilala mo?  No problem.  Adjust your settings not to display your number of friends.  Pagtiningnan ang page mo ay lalabas lang ang "mutual" friends  kung mayroon sila sa iyo.  MAS IMPORTANTE NA ANG SOCIAL MEDIA FRIENDS MO AY TOTOO.  Kahit tatlo lang sila, basta LUV ka nila ay Winner ka.


Social Media is a digital gift to us.  We must use it WISELY and POSITIVELY.
PETIKS LANG TAYO.





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NOTE: Primary target readers of this post are Filipinos who are non-users of social media.  Language used is NOT Taglish and/or NOT Engalog rather a casual, conversational and spontaneous mix of English and Filipino.  

Translation reference: (maganda-lovely, buhok-hair, mukha-face, kunan-take a photo, litrato-photo, bastos-obscene, tsismoso/tsismosa-gossiper, alulod-drain/spout, bahay-house, arinola-chamber pot,  inodoro-toilet bowl, kubeta-toilet,  dats/dinero-money, itlog-egg,  pandesal-salt bread,  dahil-because,  konti-few, totoo-genuine/real, tatlo-three,  petiks-relax)